I could get on a soapbox today and write for quite a while on my views of Motherhood, but G.K. Chesterton did a pretty adequate job and so I will leave it to him. I had an epiphany a few years ago about the importance of my vocation as a mother and it was some time after that I came across this essay which more eloquently says what I feel on a daily basis. Happy Mother's Day!
Supposing it to be conceded that humanity has acted at
least not unnaturally in dividing itself into two halves, respectively
typifying the ideals of special talent and of general sanity (since they
are genuinely difficult to combine completely in one mind), it is not
difficult to see why the line of cleavage has followed the line of sex,
or why the female became the emblem of the universal and the male of the
special and superior.
Two gigantic facts of nature fixed it thus: first, that the woman who
frequently fulfilled her functions literally could not be specially
prominent in experiment and adventure; and second, that the same natural
operation surrounded her with very young children, who require to be
taught not so much anything as everything. Babies need not to be
taught a trade, but to be introduced to a world. To put the matter
shortly, woman is generally shut up in a house with a human being at the
time when he asks all the questions that there are, and some that there
aren’t. It would be odd if she retained any of the narrowness of a
specialist.
Now if anyone says that this duty of general enlightenment (even when
freed from modern rules and hours, and exercised more spontaneously by a
more protected person) is in itself too exacting and oppressive, I can
understand the view. I can only answer that our race has thought it
worth while to cast this burden on women in order to keep common-sense
in the world.
But when people begin to talk about this domestic duty as not merely
difficult but trivial and dreary, I simply give up the question. For I
cannot with the utmost energy of imagination conceive what they mean.
When domesticity, for instance, is called drudgery, all the difficulty
arises from a double meaning in the word. If drudgery only means
dreadfully hard work, I admit the woman drudges in the home, as a man
might drudge at the Cathedral of Amiens or drudge behind a gun at
Trafalgar. But if it means that the hard work is more heavy because it
is trifling, colorless and of small import to the soul, then as I say, I
give it up; I do not know what the words mean.
To be Queen Elizabeth within a definite area, deciding sales,
banquets, labors and holidays; to be Whiteley within a certain area,
providing toys, boots, sheets, cakes and books, to be Aristotle within a
certain area, teaching morals, manners, theology, and hygiene; I can
understand how this might exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it
could narrow it.
How can it be a large career to tell other people’s children about
the Rule of Three, and a small career to tell one’s own children about
the universe? How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone,
and narrow to be everything to someone? No; a woman’s function is
laborious, but because it is gigantic, not because it is minute. I will
pity Mrs. Jones for the hugeness of her task; I will never pity her for
its smallness.
-What’s Wrong with the World by G.K. Chesterton
1 comment:
You always surprise me with your cleverness, Liesel. Happy Mothers Day, to the mother of my great kids!
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